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On Dec. 13th, 2013 I went in for a diagnostic mammo due to a history of fibrous cysts and recent pain and problems with my breasts, as well as just overall general decline of my health in the past few months. Well I knew I was in trouble when they immediately wanted to do the ultrasound and shuffled me off to another room. When the tech wanted to get the Dr after she did her initial ultrasound, I definitely was in a panic. Well the Dr. proceeded to do her exam and when she was finished she sat me up and point blank told me I had calcifications behind both nipples and masses in both breasts and she stated it was cancer.... Not that she "thinks" or "feels" it was cancer, but the definite real deal and she wanted me to be biopsied immediately to find out what stage and type and how we needed to proceed with treatment. Well needless to say the last few weeks have been a blur and a nightmare I can't seem to wake up from. I have been biopsied and confirmed the day after xmas that I have Invasive Ductal Carcinoma with Lobular Features Stage 1. But I am diabetic and my immune system is taxed due to major stress. Since my diagnosis I hae had my daughter in the hospital with a life threatening issue and also had to make an emergency trip to California right before New Years and watched my father pass away. I have had no time to think about my future, or mourn my father or just to even breathe. I am at a complete loss of how to regain some sort of peaceful moments to process what I need to process and make my choices. I met with my surgeon today and am planning on a double mastectomy but she is concerned for my ability to heal due to the constant stress that is being thrown in front of me daily due to job issues that put me at risk to lose not only my job but my home as well... I am obviously venting because I have to , but I am also seeking guidance form others who have made this journey on how to set my boundaries and make sure I am taking care of myself. I am so used to doing for others and always being on the go, but I am tapped and now in fear of losing my security of job and home while I wage this war with this monster. Can anyone offer some suggestions on how to speak up for what I need without causing more stress for myself?

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Comment by Maria Kemp on February 7, 2014 at 1:04pm

Hi Anna, so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. You are in the right place though to help find answers. This group here has been very helpful in pointing me in some right directions. Here is something I found that might help answer your question..

IDC — Invasive Ductal Carcinoma

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Invasive ductal carcinoma (IDC), sometimes called infiltrating ductal carcinoma, is the most common type of breast cancer. About 80% of all breast cancers are invasive ductal carcinomas.

Invasive means that the cancer has “invaded” or spread to the surrounding breast tissues.Ductal means that the cancer began in the milk ducts, which are the “pipes” that carry milk from the milk-producing lobules to the nipple. Carcinoma refers to any cancer that begins in the skin or other tissues that cover internal organs — such as breast tissue. All together, “invasive ductal carcinoma” refers to cancer that has broken through the wall of the milk duct and begun to invade the tissues of the breast. Over time, invasive ductal carcinoma can spread to the lymph nodes and possibly to other areas of the body.

According to the American Cancer Society, more than 180,000 women in the United States find out they have invasive breast cancer each year. Most of them are diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma.

Although invasive ductal carcinoma can affect women at any age, it is more common as women grow older. According to the American Cancer Society, about two-thirds of women are 55 or older when they are diagnosed with an invasive breast cancer. Invasive ductal carcinoma also affects men.

On the following pages you can learn more about:

I know the panic you are feeling, but try to take a breath and when you have more info to go on then you will know more about prognosis. The best medicine at this point is educating yourself from proper sources, such as this group here. Be careful about internet surfing because there are many different scenarios and no sense overloading yourself with info that doesn't even apply to your situation. Please feel free to message me if you just need to talk or vent... Keep a positive attitude and laugh as much as you can... Take care, Maria..

Comment by ANNA DIEFFENBACH on February 7, 2014 at 9:17am

hi, my name is anna, I too have milk duct carcinoma,I went though my blood tests, ekg, yesterday I had an mri, next Thursday I will have an ultrasound, then I talk to my dr., I know, that I will have surgery,but really don't know what to expect. can anyone tell me, what a invasive milk duct carcinoma is??and what the outcome will be, and the life expectancy??im worried. thank you god bless anna

Comment by Liana Lopez on January 10, 2014 at 1:40pm

Hi Maria,

I have not been through what you are experiencing at this time, however, I wanted to reach out to you and let you know you and your family will be in my prayers. I can't offer any advice but, I'm a great listener. If you need someone to talk to that will offer encouragement and a peaceful ear, please, feel free to reach out to me at any time. Take it a day at a time, minute by minute if necessary. Don't lose your faith in a happier future.

Much love,


Comment by Kristina on January 10, 2014 at 11:10am

Your sisters are offering great advise on FB.  Please go to our page to see comments. :)

Comment by Kristina on January 10, 2014 at 9:45am

Hi Maria,  As I read your story I felt so much empathy for you and your sweet family.  Sometimes we get more than we feel we can possibly handle :(.  It sounds like you qualify for a few of our programs available for breast cancer fighters.  If you are interested in learning more, contact Christine Richardson.  Her email is and her phone number is 888.470.7909 x102.

You are in our thoughts and prayers.  I will share your story on FB to help you receive the support you need at this time.

Hugs, Kristina

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